Unless you have been living under a rock and avoiding social media for the past two weeks, you have by now heard of #ForeverDuncan. It’s the story of a man, Alfred, who proposed to his girlfriend, Sherrelle, over brunch. Six hours later he surprised her with a wedding complete with a dress she unknowingly designed herself and her daddy to walk her down the aisle.
Their hashtag is still all over Instagram, Twitter, YouTube and Facebook and while most people have celebrated them and their love, others have been negative. Many men are complaining that Alfred set the bar too high and he addressed this in one of his follow up videos. He said that he did what he did, the way he did, because he wanted to make his now wife happy. He wanted to do what pleased her. He also made it a point to mention that while men need to step up and treat their women better, women needed to step as well.
I have addressed this topic in one of my past videos as well. Too many women think they are ready for marriage when really they are just ready to have someone to call their own. And others think they are ready to be someone’s wife because of the length of time they have been with someone. But it is never that simple.
You have to prepare to be someone spouse, if that’s what you really want. Prepare yourself to put someone’s feelings before your own. Prepare to actually listen and absorb what they have to say. Understand that your relationship with that person will come before every other relationship in your life, with the exception of your relationship with God.
As women, we do have to step up if we want that #ForeverDuncan type of love. And I don’t mean the exact specifications of their romance, engagement, and marriage. What I saw when I watched the videos, was the immense joy on both of their faces whenever they looked at each other. I saw the raw emotion and I could see God moving and touching them and everyone that bared witness to their union.
Knowing that God has brought you this man or woman that you have been waiting for is enough to make you praise and shout His name. But God never moves when we want him to, and it’s for the best. If God granted us the husband or wife we think we want when we think we’re ready, this world would have a much higher divorce rate.
Step up and work on yourself before you fix your mouth to say you’re ready to be a husband or wife.