When I wrote the title of this blog I started humming the Wayne Wonder reggae song “No Letting Go” but my remix would go “I’m letting go, no looking back.” Not as romantic as the original song but it is far more powerful.
Letting go is essential as you get older and the philosophy could be applied to bad habits or bad people. As bad as the habit, or person, could be, letting go is never easy. We all get complacent and don’t want to deal with the withdrawals of getting rid of something or someone that has been a staple in your life.
I won’t pretend like it’s always easy for me to make those tough decisions. But I have to force myself to think about how my life would look and feel if I didn’t take action.
The future of my health and happiness is worth far more than the awkwardness of “breaking up” with something that is causing me stress. I look around at all of the things I have currently going on and all the things I have yet to accomplish and I know I can’t afford to let inconsequential things stand in my way.
Look at your future. Look at those projects you have on the horizon. Now think about the toxic habits or people that currently inhabit your life. Will that thing or that person help you reach your goal? Or will they be a hindrance? Will they encourage you to work hard and be patient while you perfect your grind? Or will they be a distraction?
Don’t feel guilty for putting you and your goals and your family before everything else. THAT IS YOUR RIGHT. And as hard as it may be to hear, some of those habits and people are not meant to go along for the ride.
Letting go is the first step and as hard as it can be, resisting the temptation to look back can be even harder. Removing something from your life doesn’t mean you don’t or won’t miss it. It’s natural to mourn the loss of something you once held dear. However, looking back can cause you to rewrite history and can open the door to reintroduce that toxicity into your life.
Stay firm. Keep your eyes forward. And trust yourself.