In Married at First Sight, a Lifetime reality show in which single people are paired to get married to strangers, I often hear them say they are ready for a wife, looking for a husband, or need that special someone.
The problem with this language is that it’s so one-sided. It perpetuates the idea that having a spouse is the ultimate goal, as opposed to having a marriage. This is a running occurrence on this show, unfortunately.
Too many single people, those looking to be married, don’t think about what kind of husband or wife they want to be or what type of marriage they want to have. Don’t go into a marriage, or any kind of relationship, expecting to get serviced without putting in work of your own. And don’t expect your significant other to just fit neatly into the life you’ve already created.
Marriage is work because you are signing up to learn what someone needs and most times that means making adjustments in your own life to fit those needs. Sometimes it means finding your voice and being honest with yourself about where you’re falling short. Either way, don’t ever think that your spouse is the only one responsible for making your marriage successful.
Mom of 2 Wife of One 
This! I watch the show also and find that some of the people are unwilling to compromise after being married. Because everyone is an individual, and will likely not agree on everything, compromise HAS to happen. That may include sacrifice on one or both parties. And with sacrifice, determining WHO sacrifices can be a monumental hurdle. So couples do need to consider their part in getting married…to a stranger or otherwise.
exactly!! too many of them get on the show expecting there not to be any problems because this person was “chosen” for them; but in actuality, the person chosen for you is supposed to challenge you and make you better but everyone isn’t ready to receive that